生與不生,矛盾的心情。 - 婦產科

By Aaliyah
at 2020-10-24T16:59
at 2020-10-24T16:59
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文長,慎入
一直在猶豫要不要發這篇文,害怕會被檢討(噗)
但最後還是決定發文訴說一番。
以下正文
各位姐妹們好!
先說說我的情況
我今年36歲、先生40歲
去年10月宴客(今年五月登記)
婚前婚後都沒有做孕前檢查;
交往期間及婚後沒有特別避孕也不會算排卵期,不曾懷孕過。
生理週期在24-28天左右,
前兩次的生理期在排卵後高溫有超過12天,但這次排卵後高溫卻只有10天生理期就報到了
(8月中抽血檢查黃體素是12.5)
今年開始身邊的親朋好友+同事阿姨時不時會問「什麼時候要生啊?」「高齡了要趕快生
啊」「懷孕了沒?有了要說喔!」等等等等的各種關心
其實我個人本來就不想生
因為
①不想失去自由與時間更不想花錢養小孩(抱歉我比較自私)
②我脾氣不好沒耐性易怒
覺得生出來的孩子應該好不到哪去;;;;
③我生性懶散,怕麻煩討厭瑣事
④不討厭小孩但也不喜歡小孩
(有幫忙帶過親戚的小孩覺得我不適合當媽媽)
而同事阿姨聽了我不想生的原因理由後就說「現在說這些不準啦!等妳生了就知道了/你
就會喜歡小孩了/你就知道該怎麼做了/你就會blablabla...」等等各種說服我生的理由
阿姨說的這些我也懂,可能真的懷上了才會真正的開心並接受孩子;但我心裡真的很排斥
這個話題跟這件事;我個性比較反骨,越是叫我做什麼我越不想做,我想發自內心的去做
這件事;所以只要有人提到這個話題我馬上就發飆...
但不論先生還是公公或是自己媽媽都希望我至少生一個(婆婆從沒催生過,公公就會直說)
。
不過我只跟先生和媽媽說過我不想生,沒有跟婆家說過。
直到先生的哥哥叫我們直接做試管時才突然想到可以用這個方式懷孕;因為我非常不喜歡
做功課這件事,對我來說不是享受而是痛苦;而試管就可以不用痛苦的做功課啦!
加上因為先生哥哥的兩個孩子都是試管嬰兒,所以他一直建議我們直接做試管比較快。
於是8月中預約婦產科看診抽血、並做了先生的精子檢查跟我的輸卵管檢查。
報告顯示先生的精子除了形狀之外其他沒問題,而我的AMH是0.65,卵巢早衰會提早進入
更年期;輸卵管右邊不通左邊稍微通但不暢,顯影劑積在輸卵管末端,醫生說顯影劑沒有
以正常的噴射狀方式流出去,所以建議我直接做試管,並沒有再叫我做其他檢查。
聽了試管的流程跟價錢就又讓我打退堂鼓.....心裡又開始埋怨:為什麼我要為了生小孩
受這些苦花這些錢?為什麼大家都要我生孩子?
即使我說了不想生小孩也不會有人站在我這邊替我著想(媽媽會勸我生,先生因為想要小
孩所以不表態,同事阿姨們只會說風涼話就不管她們了)
然後我找到了這個版,看了很多姊妹們的備孕過程跟經驗談都覺得女人真的很辛苦!為了
孩子真的什麼苦都能承受,只能說辛苦大家了。
後來自己靜下心再想想:好吧!既然大家都要我生,我就試試看,雖然身體條件不是很好
但還是先試試看自然受孕(輸卵管檢查後的三個月黃金時間),今年沒消息的話明年就直接
做試管...
因為我沒什麼耐心再花時間自然受孕或調理身體
跟版上姐妹們的備孕時間比起來我真的不算什麼,約三個月左右...
我只做了
①每天量基礎體溫
②排卵試紙
③吃女性綜合維他命
其他的...我真的很懶也不想再多做什麼來提高受孕機率,想到就覺得痛苦...(勿戰)
如今黃金時期第二個月過去了,上個星期五生理期準時報到...
今天才開始吃DHEA、D-3、Q10等等備孕品(等貨等很久)
回到標題
我的心態很難調整,要我開心、放輕鬆不要有壓力是不可能的。
畢竟我本來就不想生,只是身邊的人都要我至少生一個,再加上其實我也害怕萬一年紀更
大了突然想要有自己的孩子會更生不出來更辛苦...
這種不想生卻不得不生的矛盾心情很難訴說
另外請教板上姐妹們,我住在新莊,有沒有推薦的試管嬰兒的診所、醫院或是醫生?
希望不要太遠(我不會騎車),先生的工作時間不是固定的朝九晚五,有時候可能要自己搭
車去,所以希望是交通方便的地方。
先謝謝大家!
謝謝看到這裡的妳們
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