博班指導教授Hazing問題 - 留學

By Belly
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留學版的大神們大家好 小弟目前在賓州中部某村念化工phd第二年遇到了一些和老闆(現在是前老闆)的大問題想請教大神們的看法
我是我老闆的第一屆學生 (我們這屆總共兩個人都是台灣人),大約花了近一年的時間在去年把實驗室架設完畢,在選擇這個老闆之前本來就有預期會很辛苦也很情願認真工作,一週大約花60到70小時在research上面我也願意,但是我們所接收到的卻是老闆不斷的emotional abuse以及各種negative
feedback。我們老闆是一個非常micromanagement的韓國人以及非常重視傳統的階級制度,他必須知道我們每天每個小時在幹嘛打算做什麼事情,另外如果實驗室的學弟有任何數據分析上的錯誤以及答不出她任何問的問題的話,她會責怪我們兩個博二的學生並沒有好好做到教導的責任。
我們老闆也是一個非常有野心的人,一心想要發到很好的期刊,給我們的研究方向大概每個月就換一次,如果跟他想要進行有意義的scientific discussion他只會固執的堅持己見覺得我們必須聽她的,如果做出的東西不符合預期或者team message沒有在三分鐘內回,常常就會直接接到電話被爆噴一頓(即使在周末),像是說I am very disappointed about you. This is not acceptable
之類的話,跟她解釋她只會覺得我們在頂嘴讓我心很累,在一年內爆瘦17公斤,由於這些壓力也讓我不得不開始定期心理諮商。在兩週前我鼓起了勇氣跟我的前老闆提出我對她的管理方式的不滿以及造成我的壓力,接收到的回應卻是If you have time to go to mental doctor, how dare you can think you are hard-working enough? You still have time to think about these! 當下的我雖然沒跟她鬧翻但已經確定無法在這個實驗室待下去了,於是直接寫信跟系上的graduated school
coordinator表達我要換指導教授的意願,兩天後我的同事也因為跟我發生同樣的事情,同時決定要離開這個指導教授,她也因此損失她所有第一屆的學生。
但是系上的換指導教授流程十分不合理,我們必須得到原老闆的同意將實驗室交接完畢後才能開始reach out其他的教授,我也很同意當然我必須把我在這個實驗室所有學會的技能所有產出的data以及所有我知道的資訊給學弟們,於是這兩週我盡我所能地把這些交接給學弟,我自認我已經無法對他們再貢獻更多了。然而,前老闆卻在昨天寄了一封信給我和我同事說the transfer is not complete and it is
improper我去問學弟原因,他們說是因為老闆問了學弟們一個儀器背後的原理他們答不出來所以老闆把這個原因歸咎於我們沒有好好的交接,甚至那個問題我也不會回答。我覺得knowledge這種東西是沒辦法輕易交接的畢竟我比學弟們多看了幾百篇相關領域的paper他們不可能短時間內pick up所有東西,我們前老闆就是以這個理由來惡意延宕我們去找新教授的時程。
抱歉占用大家的時間看了一篇看似抱怨的文章,但是我和我台灣同事已經不知道該如何處理這件事情了,目前有想到的方法是聯絡工學院的dean來處理但是其實在整個學校中教授和學生永遠無法平等的對談,我們老闆又有許多說謊或著manipulate話語的前科,但是我們並沒有相關的錄音佐證,因此事會變得更加棘手,想請問各位大神們有什麼建議,謝謝大家!
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